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How To Flirt With A Woman Without Being Creepy When Online Dating

There’s a fine line between being flirty and being creepy when you’re communicating with a woman. Most guys tend to flatter women for her obvious good looks and physical features. Some men are very inappropriate with their comments, and forget to filter their comments when sending messages and DM's. Here are three basic tips to flirt with a women without being creepy.

WRITTEN BY Carmelia Ray | Guest Writer | Jan 16 2018

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Don't compliment her for any of her sexy body parts - Attractive women are constantly bombarded with messages from random guys professing their love and admiration based on looks alone. Flirting with a woman online shouldn't always begin with stating the obvious, that you're attracted to her body or looks. Whenever you reach out to a woman online, it's clear you're attracted to her, or you wouldn't have messaged her in the first place! If you'd like to compliment her, compliment her for something other than the typical body parts men seem to notice. Namely, her butt, her breasts, her lips, her mouth, her waist or her overall body. How you compliment her, is equally important in expressing your appreciation for her looks. You could choose to compliment her on her healthy lifestyle choices rather than saying "Damn girl, you must do squats because you can tell with that round booty." You could ask a question to imply you've noticed how fit she looks by saying, "Are you a member of a gym, or do you get your physique from good genetics?" This is a much better way of complimenting her body instead of pointing out which parts of her body you noticed. I've read messages to my clients where men stated "I like your boobs." This was the opening line. And? There wasn't even a follow up question. Just a statement. Successful flirting should be taken as flattery with the opportunity to further engage or play with your partner. Making statements leads to a dead end conversation.

Avoid using cheesy pick up lines - Cheesy pick up lines are not a great way to flirt with a woman, You can often risk insulting her based on the line you choose. You also have to get that women have varying degrees of humour. Not everyone appreciates a joke or sarcasm used in an opening line. Women will always prefer a man who has something unique and personal to say to her. They're tired of the cheesy one liners like "You look like my future girlfriend." Do you know what my shirt is made of? Boyfriend material. I'm not a photographer, but I can totally picker us together. Although your intuition to flirt is clear when you're using a cheesy pick up line, you might also be pegged as a player and unoriginal. Better to use a genuine sentence to indicate why you were drawn to her profile and why you feel you're a great match for her.

Don't use terms of endearment with a woman you've just met! One of the most annoying and frankly disrespectful things you can do to a woman online, in your attempt to flirt with her is to call her any of the following: Bebe. Hun. Sweety. Baby. Honey. Bae. Baby. Sexy. Hottie. Cutie. Princess. Beautiful. Angel. Dear. Sweet Cheeks. Sugar lips. Momma etc... What you can do is call her by her username until you can ask her what her real name is. Then, the only thing you should be calling her by, is her real name. Terms of endearment, or "Pet names" you guys seem to instantly call women you like is not cute or welcome. A great way to flirt with a woman is to use her name properly and to flatter her without using some of the awful terms listed at the beginning of this paragraph, If you are used to calling a woman by a pet name, the best thing you could do, is to ask her what name she would be O.K with being called if she had to choose one. Asking permission to call a women by a cute name you've made for her is a step to flirting in the right direction. You might opt for a name that seems a little more unique, such as "Sunshine" or "Rainbow" because she makes your day bright or makes you smile. Attaching a reason behind the fun name you'd like to call her can indicate your desire to make her feel special. Whatever you choose to do, needs to be met with her approval if you want it to work in your favour.

Carmelia Ray

TV Host, Matchmaker & Online Dating Coach

Carmelia Ray is an internationally acclaimed matchmaker for high achieving men and the quality women they’re searching for. She’s also a renowned TV personality from Mom Vs. Matchmaker, The Real Housewives Of Toronto, and A User’s Guide to Cheating Death (Fall 2018).