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7 Things That Make a First Date Great

A first date is the crucial stepping stone to a long term connection. First impressions are delicate and sets the scene for how someone perceives you.

WRITTEN BY Channa Bromley | Guest Writer | Jan 16 2018

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If you want your love connection to blossom it’s important to leave a positive impression and be perceived as someone who your date would want to continue getting to know. Here are some tips from a Matchmaker:

1. Confidence is sexy.

Be happy with who you are and know your worth. Recognise that you are a hot ticket with a unique set of qualities and attributes. Confidence is displayed not just by your mindset but also by body language. Smile. Make eye contact. Open up your body and sit with proper posture. Fidgeting, sitting with your arms crossed, and slouching all show insecurity. Be mindful of your energy and how you’re presenting yourself.

2. Maximize fun.

Approach dating as not just looking for an important relationship but as a tool to enjoying life. Find unique places to meet. Doing so creates excitement, intrigue, makes for great icebreaker conversation and allows you to share something new with your date.

3. Dress to Impress.

Appearance matters. Psychologists say we have 7 seconds to make a first impression. Take the time to present your best self on a first date. Toronto is a very trendy and stylish city. Shower, shave, and wear an outfit that is true to your style and flattering to your shape.

4. Be a “sparkling” conservationist.

The fastest way to take the sizzle out of a first date is to turn it into an interview or a talk show. Steer clear of conversation icebergs such as politics, sex, ex’s and any kind of past trauma’s. Instead, ask ice breaking questions to start out great conversations. Intriguing and thought provoking questions are available as an app; “Conversation starters”.

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It’s Just Lunch Toronto Tip: Try sitting side by side vs across from one another. It allows for less formal banter and opens the door for more physical interaction.

5. Be attentive.

No matter how excited, thrilled or turned on you may be, it’s important to listen to what your date has to say. You don’t want to go through the whole date in a giddy daze and not remember anything later. This communication skill is very welcoming and will create comfort. Let the other person finish talking before commenting or adding to the conversation. Take equal turns speaking.

6. Vibes don’t lie.

Authenticity is key, there is only one you. People can sense when you’re not being genuine. If you pretend to be someone you’re not or interested in things you are not, you are ultimately prolonging the inevitable, wasting your time and your dates time. When it comes to romance, the secret really is to be yourself. Always act in ways that are consistent with your beliefs and honest to your state of being.

7. Keep it in perspective.

Don’t lose sight of the fact that it’s just a date. Try to keep it light and fun. Marriage should not be the goal (or the topic of conversation). No one has a crystal bowl and predict the future. You have no idea how it will turn out. It will either work or it won’t. The magic is in the mystery. So relax and enjoy yourself!

-Channa Bromley

Channa Bromley

Relationship Expert and Matchmaker

Channa has over 15 years experience as a dating and relationship coach. She has spent the last 7 years consulting for the world’s leading matchmaking firm, has spoken about dating on morning news shows, a published author and holds several degrees in psychology and holistic studies. She specializes in total transformation - from loving yourself to falling in love to maintaining a fulfilling relationship. Channa has helped thousands of men and women make this transformation and guided them every step of the way. Throughout her professional experience, she has learned the science of what makes and breaks relationships and witnessed the emotional component behind the science first-hand. Channa’s extensive experience in dating and relationships make her well-prepared to help you discover or achieve any of your relationship goals.