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What Should You Do If Your Ex Reaches Out To You On Valentine's Day?

What do you do if you're ex-boyfriend reaches out to you on Valentine's Day? Our Chief Matchmaker and Online Dating Coach, Carmelia Ray has you covered! Check out her essential dating tips when your ex decides to message you out of the blue on Valentine's Day.

WRITTEN BY Carmelia Ray | Guest Writer | Feb 21 2019

What do you do when your ex reaches out on Valentine's Day?

It's Valentine's Day, and just when you least expect it, you see his name blow up on your phone, it's your EX! What do you do when your Ex suddenly reaches out to you on Valentine's Day? Never fear, Carmelia Ray shares 4 important dating tips to help you deal with this dreaded situation.

1. Don't assume anything.

When your phone rings, and you notice it's your ex calling you, do not panic and do not assume anything. Don't start thinking about all the worst possible reasons your ex is calling. Take a breath and if it's important, they'll call back.

2. Don't get emotional.

Hearing from an ex might bring back sad memories or skeletons in the closet you'd rather leave behind. If you notice you're still holding onto resentments, or feelings begin to stir, when you thought they were gone; the best thing to do is not to react. Don't allow your emotions to control your current mood and behaviour. Focus on all the great things happening for you and remind yourself your relationship is over for a reason. Just because your ex messages you, doesn't mean you go backwards in your healing and the progress you've made since becoming single.

3. Hear him out.

If an ex reaches out to you on Valentine's Day, consider it a flattery. Clearly you're on their mind and they couldn't resist the need to reach out, especially on a day that signifies romantic love for millions of people around the world. You can hear them out without having to carry on back and forth dialogue. Maybe they're looking for closure or a past memory of you pulled on their heart strings a little too strongly. Be empathetic, acknowledge their greeting and carry on as usual.

4. Thank you, next.

Ariana Grande's attitude about her ex's is an exemplary model for dealing with past relationships. Consider that your ex had something positive to contribute to you, even if it was a life lesson on what NOT to do in a partnership. If your ex reaches out, it doesn't mean you have to return the message. If it's best for you to not respond, then do what empowers YOU and what makes you happy. If they reached out simply to wish you a happy day or a happy life. You can say "Thank you...." and return with a positive sentiment and a clear message you've moved on.

Carmelia Ray

TV Host, Matchmaker & Online Dating Coach

Carmelia Ray is an internationally acclaimed matchmaker for high achieving men and the quality women they’re searching for. She’s also a renowned TV personality from Mom Vs. Matchmaker, The Real Housewives Of Toronto, and A User’s Guide to Cheating Death (Fall 2018).